Guys Holding Doors

Rachel Maxwell · Post by **Rachel Maxwell** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 12:19 pm

Are any girls here offended by guys holding doors? I've heard that some people get furious about it, and it mystifies me. I think it's sweet.

Fei · Post by **Fei** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 12:34 pm

Why would a girl be offended by a guy being polite?

Like you Rachel, I think it's a sweet gesture as well.

The Artful Dodger · Post by **The Artful Dodger** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 12:43 pm

Some females think that guys who hold doors for them and offer them their seats are trying to show that the male sex is superior...which is bogus...but yeah. I personally find it offensive when guys don't hold doors or offer their seats to girls (not just for me, but girls in general). But I guess the crowd of guys I hang around most of the time is pretty polite (especially my bros

), so I'm spoiled.

Rachel Maxwell · Post by **Rachel Maxwell** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 12:56 pm

I see it more of a gesture of respect, like, I hold doors for older people. Not because I think they can't or anything. It seems very rude when someone lets the door slam in your face (male or female). Kinda funny when they can't decide whether to open it or not, and it almost shuts and they catch it.

Kait · Post by **Kait** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 2:05 pm

yeah, I've read that some women get all uptight about guys holding open doors, offering them thier seat etc. I think it's very gentlemanly and sweet. That is one of the reasons that I sometimes wish I was born 200 years earlier. I think that men in general were much more courteous towards women. And women in general were more feminine and didn't do stupid things like get mad at a guy because he held the door open for her.

Arla · Post by **Arla** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 2:44 pm

No, I don't. It's just polite for anyone to do. I do it all the time.

FrayedAroundTheEdges · Thu Jun 21, 2007 2:51 pm

I find it flattering when a guy does all that for a me *or anyother girl for that matter*. Because the point is he should lol it has nothing to do with guyz being superior or whatever its just polite $\:D/$

Conniepaw · Post by **Conniepaw** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 2:52 pm

My brother will hold the door for his girlfriend but not for me!

Trent DeWhite · Post by **Trent DeWhite** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 2:53 pm

I'm terribly offended if a guy doesn't hold the door open for me.

FrayedAroundTheEdges · Thu Jun 21, 2007 3:19 pm

Trent DeWhite wrote:I'm terribly offended if a guy doesn't hold the door open for me.

HAHAHAHA

JesusIsAlive · Post by **JesusIsAlive** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 4:23 pm

I'm usually the one stuck holding the door...

I don't mind when guys hold the door open, but it rarely happens...

But, I also don't care if they don't hold it open.

Stubborn · Post by **Stubborn** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 4:51 pm

My brothers never really got into the hold-the-door-open-for-your-sisters thing. Not that they didn't think we deserved it, they just... didn't. *shrugs* They do it for other girls on a regular basis. But I guess we're too special for that, or something.

Recently, a guy held a door open for me at a conference (he just happened to be an online friend that I was meeting for the first time), I was not only surprised, but pleased. I think that holding a door open for a girl should be the way a guy says that he thinks that she's importand and cares. Cares in general, that is. No one likes seeing someone walk around like they own the world. Respect and care are good things.

Guys, be polite!

The Artful Dodger · Post by **The Artful Dodger** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 5:18 pm

Yeah, I do my best to hold doors for people too. I usually don't hold the doors for guys unless they're carrying something, I mean, I don't let it slam in their faces, I make sure they catch it. But once I held the door for my older brother, he said it was "not proper" to do, so yeah

I just let guys open door for me and say "thanks" as I pass. And give the ones who don't open it for me evil looks.

Laura Ingalls · Post by **Laura Ingalls** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 6:40 pm

I think it's great when men hold doors etc. for women. $\:D/$ Watson is so nice, he always holds the door for me - he did tonight when we went to the library.

Of course, ANYONE should be courteous enough to hold the door open if someone else is right behind you. Too bad basic manners and chivalry has gone out the window for the most part these days.

Thursday Next · Post by **Thursday Next** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 7:18 pm

My granddad said he did that once, (and he's 90 now mind you) and the woman in question got angry at him for doing that. That was back when he was a young man. He's told my sisters and I that whoever we date should hold the door open for us because we're worth it.

Sonuna · Post by **Sonuna** » Thu Jun 21, 2007 8:06 pm

I am neutral/appreciative, it isn't an issue I feel strongly on; on the other hand, I don't understand why anyone would dislike the trope enough to make them angry...

(On the other other hand, 'Guys Holding Doors' seems like a good band name. For that matter, everything makes a good band name to me.)

J-man · Post by **J-man** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:54 am

I do it a lot of the time.. Mostly for my family.. I've always viewed it as something polite..

Ruthie · Post by **Ruthie** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:16 am

It's always nice when guys hold doors open, although- it doesn't always happen.

If I'm at like a Speech and Debate tournament, or at TeenPact....guys always hold doors open for me.

*cough*

But then when we get back...the same guys will just go through the door and leave me behind.

Arwen · Post by **Arwen** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:31 am

I think it's great when a guy thinks to do that. Not many do anymore. Whenever someone's close behind me, I always wait for them to come up to the door. If it's an older person or couple, I hold the door open for them. If it's a guy, I walk through but hold the door out so he can grab the handle. If I get there the same time as a guy, sometimes (hopefully) he'll step ahead and open the door for me to walk through. Really, if everyone were to follow "door etiquette," walking in and out of buildings would go a lot smoother for everyone. It just works well.

I hate when I hold the door for someone to take, and then they don't, and then there's a long line of people coming in while I'm stuck holding the door. One of the hazards of being polite, I guess.

Azariah Ben Yaakov · Post by **Azariah Ben Yaakov** » Fri Jun 22, 2007 9:53 am

I generally open the door for everyone.

I know my mom, and her friends enjoy it, My dad doesnt really care, Not sure about my girlfriend, but i know this one girl, if i would open the door for her, or pull out her chair, she acted like i was showering her with love. She LOVED it. So, yeah I do it for everyone, especially the elderly, and such like.

Ryan